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Finding Cemetery Where Family Members Are Buried?
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119 posts
Jun 20, 2013
9:57 PM
donw - In a previous topic, carlatm75 indicated that she had posted a tribute to my father on . That website indicates over 100 million gravesite listings - I know that's not that many (when you consider all the people that have lived and died), but if a local cemetery has their residents posted somewhere, you may get lucky here.
108 posts
Jun 21, 2013
2:59 AM
I'm assuming that they died here in Montgomery County. Have you been able to get a copy of the death certificate? I think the burial site is listed there. Death certificates are public record and can be obtained from the county-vital statistics. Blue pages in the phone book should have a number.
156 posts
Jun 21, 2013
4:16 AM
Obits usually give interment sites. The main library downtown has DDN on microfiche, I'm sure going back to the 60s at least, probably much earlier. If you don' t have their dates of death, you should be able to find them on the SSDI.

If grandpa was a church going man, check with his church. Many churches keep records on such things, especially if the pastor conducted a service.

These days, sadly funeral homes are not apt to give out information on their previous "customers". Strange as it may seem, privacy rights and identity theft concerns now extend to the dead much as they do to the living.
525 posts
Jun 21, 2013
5:20 AM
I do tons of genealogy research and will be glad to help. First call would be to Tobias. I have never had problems getting info like that from a funeral home. AND they usually keep records as far back as they were in business. My last name is LITTLETON and ancestors started what is now the Littleton - Rue Funeral Home chain in Springfield area. Give me what details you have and I'll be glad to look if you don't get it from Tobias.
Steve K
215 posts
Jun 21, 2013
2:36 PM
tlturbo's right.... shouldn't be that hard to find... if the funeral home can't help, then look for exact death dates and check the obits at the library.... unfortunately they don't have the 60's and 70's indexed online yet.... likely you can find the death dates in the social security index at or maybe even find some detailed death info at
159 posts
Jun 22, 2013
3:43 PM
tlturbo--I write military history, as a result I do a great deal of such research as well. My experience is funeral homes will provide only such information as was printed in an obit or other public domain resource. This is done to protect the bereaved from scam artists and low-lifes who think nothing of taking advantage of grieving survivors, especially elderly survivors who are often the target of such slimeballs.

In researching an article about a WWII 8th AF bomber crew based in the UK, I tracked down one of the men through the SSDI. Knowing his place/date of death, I obtained a copy of his obit from the local newspaper. The obit said simply, "Private services, XXX Funeral Home". Called the funeral director to get the name of survivors in hopes they were familiar with the incident I was writing about, but immediately hit the proverbial brick wall. Funeral director told me he could tell me nothing beyond what was in the obit. I didn't ask, but assumed this was the law. As I recall, this funeral home was in NY. Since the obit said nothing, I was SOL.

Had a few similar situations, the funeral homes were kind enough to contact the families on my behalf to see if they would talk with me. Some did, others would not.

Last Edited by Calhoun on Jun 22, 2013 3:44 PM
160 posts
Jun 22, 2013
5:09 PM
My grandfather's Ohio death certificate from 1948 has a space for "place of burial", but it's blank. This could be because he was buried out of state.

Check with the Montgomery Co Bureau of Vital Statistics, I think you can see a copy of the death certificates without having to buy them. Since you know the exact death dates, they might even be willing to look them up for you to see if interment sites are recorded. The worst they can do is tell you no.
59 posts
Jun 23, 2013
10:46 AM
The vital statistics dept is very helpful. I recently wrote them an E-mail asking for information on a "heartbeat" I dated in school. I was looking for her married last name so I might be able to locate her. We talked on the phone that night. Our dating years were in 1961. It sure was fun talking with her.
110 posts
Jun 23, 2013
10:54 AM
donw. I do know for certainty that you can view death, marriage and birth certificates at the Mont. Co bureau of vital stats. You can glean the info off of them without actually purchasing a certified copy. Had an aunt that just did that recently for my Mom who is doing geneaology. I think that is how its spelled.
162 posts
Jul 01, 2013
9:57 AM
Don--Have you had any luck tracking down the gravesites?
93 posts
Jul 06, 2013
10:31 AM
Don, I totally understand you are not interested in on-line solutions, but for anyone who might be interested, there is an excellent resource available at the downtown Dayton Metro Library lower level. (And it is ONLY available there, no branches.) It's a special paid login to that can provide a staggering amount of info, including birth, marriage and death certificates that can be viewed or printed out. (I think it's 10 cents per page.) I've even found images of folks I knew back in the sixties from yearbooks, etc. The reference librarian there has to get you set up on it. Only takes a minute. BTW, the Dayton Daily News on microfilm goes all the way back to the 1800's!

Last Edited by Hankster65 on Jul 06, 2013 10:36 AM
96 posts
Jul 18, 2013
8:03 PM
Don, at least several of us are quite interested...any luck?
5 posts
Jul 27, 2013
11:48 AM
You can use the library version of at All branches. Ive personally used them myself at a couple different locations.
5 posts
Dec 17, 2013
7:02 AM
Woodland and Calvary have online sites that allow you to find a grave by the last name. Call to both very helpful

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